We have all heard it from our children, “I need this item.” As a parent, you may or may not see it as a need – you may see it as a want. One good strategy for dealing with children’s “wants” is to have them save some of their own money to purchase the item.
This strategy teaches children an important skill: Paying Yourself First, by saving some of their money for later needs. Short-term savings teaches your children that by waiting a little longer they are able to buy something they really want. Learning to save teaches children to appreciate delayed gratification. NOTE: Long term goals like saving for a car or college education can be difficult for small children.
Borrowing can be used when children run short of money; they can borrow from parents or siblings. Parents can help children learn how to borrow wisely by never loaning more money than the child can realistically repay (with interest if appropriate), and/or setting up a grace period in which there will be no interest. When children borrow, it is important that they repay the money in a timely manner; they learn the responsibility they take on when they borrow. Borrowing money can teach children the real cost of money.
Sharing money is a good lifetime habit. It teaches children that there are good feelings for both the giver and the receiver when they use their money to help others. Having money brings obligations such as taxes and charity donations. Be sure to encourage children to give other resources (such as their time and skills) as well as money.