Thinking Out Loud

If being careful with your money is important to you, and if you have children, then you are probably looking for ways to teach your children good money management skills. You probably also hope they will form values and priorities that are similar to yours.

Depending on the age of your children, you may have already learned that “preaching” (that is, telling them what to believe and do) is rarely the answer — if your children are still quite young, you may not have learned that yet, but you probably will! One strategy I learned when my children were young was that it paid to “think out loud”… to let them hear my thought process as I was making decisions.

The simplest examples would take place at the grocery store – decisions about which box of cereal to buy or which can of tomato sauce. If I spoke my thoughts aloud, they would be exposed to the ideas like: unit pricing (comparing price per ounce of different size packages); generic vs brand-name decisions (when it might be worth paying more, and when it might not be); and trade-offs (if I buy pork chops instead of beef steak, I can use the extra money for ice cream). Those are all assessments I make in my head when I shop alone, but when children are present it becomes a teaching opportunity if I say my thoughts aloud.

Similar “thinking out loud” situations could occur when buying clothing – they would be exposed to my thoughts on quality vs price, ease of cleaning (i.e. dry clean or hand wash vs machine wash) and other factors. I remember the purchase of a recliner where they saw me weighing options and they learned that we’re often unable to find the perfect product, so we have to decide what factors are most important to us.

Setting a good example is a powerful teaching strategy in everything from good manners to personal hygiene. With financial decisions, though, children won’t even be aware of what we’re doing unless we let them in on our thought processes. That’s where “thinking out loud” comes in – it makes them aware of why we make the decisions we make.

Money as You Grow: Resources for Parents and Caregivers is a wonderful resource from the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau for those seeking to help their children learn financial management skills.

Barb Wollan

Barb Wollan

Barb Wollan's goal as a Family Finance program specialist with Iowa State University Extension and Outreach is to help people use their money according to THEIR priorities. She provides information and tools, and then encourages folks to focus on what they control: their own decisions about what to do with the money they have.

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