Hmmm so I wondered after the last blog about myself and my children. I checked out the resources that Donna listed and am sharing here four of the clues to overindulging children. You can find the research and resources here…. 4 Clues to Overindulgence
Instead of sharing with you the questions, I am going to share with you the examples.
- My five-year-old has toys in every room of the house, but he is always begging for new toys.
- My ten-year-old’s clothes closet is bulging with garments, but she can’t find anything to wear to school in the morning.
- My 13-year-old has a heavy after-school activity schedule every day and all day Saturday. We want to keep him occupied so he won’t get into drugs.
- My 17-year-old loves the computer and video games. He spends all of his time looking at the screen. He isn’t interested in sports, and it is a struggle to get him to exercise. I’m afraid he stays up half the night.
I encourage you to go view the questions. Then come back here and share your thought with us!
They made me think.
2 thoughts on “Get a clue…”
The examples you gave and the handout from Jean Illsley Clark are very helpful…thank you!
I think sometimes we get confused on if we are overindulging or just spoiling kids. Alot of pressure many parents feel today in “doing the right thing” and “making sure their kids don’t get left out” and that “kids fit in with other kids”.
Kim – I agree parents do feel a lot of pressure. I find it useful to step back and ask myself critical questions. That helps me reconcile my values, intentions, and actions.