While families continue to find themselves together under one roof, as they are “staying home”, it may be the time to involve everyone in a family meeting. Family meetings are a great way to communicate honestly with one another and can help all members feel safe during these very uncertain times. Routines have shifted, school is happening in different environments and parents may be working from home. The new ways we are accommodating to the Coronavirus is shaping how we can continue to be adaptable in the future. With all of these factors in our new realities, it’s important to make sure to check in with all family members and a family meeting is a great way to do it all at once!
A family meeting may sound formal, but it is really quite simple. Agenda items for the family meeting might include:
- Menu planning – what food do we have in the refrigerator and pantry, and who would like to help prepare and serve the meals.
- Computer usage – who needs the computer connections for work or school projects and how can we share so that everyone can have access for what they need.
- School projects – can older siblings assist younger siblings with any additional school projects or work?
- Family game time – each family member can take a turn picking a game to play
- Question and answer session – provide some time for individuals to share their concerns or ask questions. Ignoring situations that are on the news is not helpful, but always consider the age and appropriateness of shared information.
We also suggest beginning each family meeting with a round of compliments. This helps all family members feel appreciated and recognized for being an important part of the family.
It may sound corny, but family meetings are a simple way to get everyone in the family on the same page and enjoy some quality time together!
It’s officially August! That means that back-to-school sales are in full swing and are serving as an ever-present reminder that summer is ending soon. Maybe for some of you this is a relief as you’re ready to get back to a regular routine, but maybe for others you are dreading your kiddos heading back-to-school. Either way, the reality is that it is coming (and probably sooner than we think).
So as if the back-to-school sales and the new AUGUST calendar page aren’t reminder enough, we here at the Science of Parenting blog wanted to get your wheels turning on it too! We have one simple reminder or suggestion for you to consider in order to make the back-to-school transition go a little smoother– start communicating about how things will be different when school starts, BEFORE school starts J
Growing up in my family we usually had these conversations over a “family meeting” where everyone was present and knew we would be having the conversation. Find a way that works for you family to have these important conversations. Here’s a few things you may want to consider discussing around the back-to-school transition:
- Logistics, especially things like…
- What kinds of activities will any of your kids be doing beyond attending school (soccer, theater, chess club, etc.),
- What time kids need to be at school or any extra activities,
- Plans are for transportation,
- Daily routines (who gets up first, who showers in the evening vs morning, bedtimes, etc.)
- Family plans and goals
- Is there anything your family wants to do together during the school year? Maybe you’re looking at preparing more meals in advance, or finding time every week to have an hour where everyone is together, or maybe trying out a new hobby as family.
- Give your child a chance to ask questions
- Having conversations ahead of time gives your child several opportunities to ask any questions they may have. Maybe your school age child needs some clarification on where they go after school? Or maybe your teenager wants to talk to you about a some new privileges this year? Either way, having a time when you kids get the chance to ask their questions in a positive environment can help everyone get in the right mindset.
Consider starting the back-to-school conversation soon to make the transition for your family a smooth one!