As the Thanksgiving holiday approaches, Science of Parenting would like to offer you a few resources to assist you in creating a memorable holiday for your family. Many families celebrate Thanksgiving by preparing foods that are not only traditional but that are meaningful to members of the family. Recipes passed down through the generations and lovingly prepared by relatives who gather to celebrate with one another. May we suggest a review of our Iowa State University Spend Smart Eat Smart website for a whole host of recipes including videos to help you prepare for your meal.
When the house is full of family, friends and extra guests, children may feel overwhelmed. Keeping a schedule, familiar to the children, will help them manage the holiday expectations more smoothly. We do have a resource you might review, Managing Stress in Young Families.
Giving thanks for one another and for our gifts may be another family tradition . Showing appreciation to one another is one way we can model good thanksgiving habits! Calling someone by name, sending a greeting card of thanks, doing a favor for someone and simply doing what we say we will do are all ways of showing appreciation for one another.
This Thanksgiving, think of a way to give thanks on a daily basis! Who are the people in your life that you love and appreciate? Who are the people that cheer you on, encourage you to do your best, support and guide you through the rough patches? If you can begin to show appreciation to these folks, giving thanks will become a habit.
As a Science of Parenting Team, we thank you for interacting with us and wish you a wonderful holiday.
As the holiday season approaches, many of us find ourselves looking at the calendar and making checklists, of things that require our attention, like baking; cleaning; holiday school programs, and gift shopping.
If you are someone who has a list of people that you shop for at the holidays, then this time of year is a busy one for you. Depending on who you are shopping for, the gift buying experience can be stressful. You may wonder if you have saved enough money to buy all the items on your gift giving list. You may also be filled with stress trying to find all the requested gifts your children seem to have this time of year.
Research reported in the Journal of Consumer Research has found that for many, it’s better to provide an experience, than just a gift itself. In fact, the research suggested that these experiences may in fact strengthen relationships between people! During the holiday season, instead of giving gifts that may need to purchased, wrapped and delivered, maybe we can re-think our gift giving strategy. What if we were to give a skill or a helping hand to someone we care for?
Could we offer our TIME, to wrap someone’s holiday gifts? Could we offer to address Christmas cards? Could we offer to go to the grocery store or shopping mall and shop alongside someone who may need extra time or attention? Consider spending a day at the senior center and visiting and listening to the stories of the residents. These are the priceless gifts of attention that so many of us can give, and others will certainly appreciate.
Don’t forget, caregiving can be the special gift you give to your family this season. Focus on helping your family members eat healthy; get plenty of sleep and exercise during the holidays! The caregiving we show to one another today will be repeated for the good of all for years to come. Stay in touch with Iowa State University Extension and Outreach your Human Sciences Specialists for information on family finances; nutrition and wellness and caregiving. Happy Holidays!
This is a great time of year to tell family stories. I purposely take the opportunity to retell my Grandma Isabel’s holiday story of gratitude each year to my children. The story goes like this… her depression era grandparents would give each grandchild woolen socks with candy and an orange. The gift was welcome to almost all of my grandmother’s brothers and sisters who usually received very little under the Christmas tree. But one Christmas her ungrateful sister Ada complained that they were itchy and she didn’t like them. Offended, her grandparents stopped the Christmas gift giving. My grandmother was heartbroken, but her heart always remembered the importance of being thankful. Her lesson of gratitude was repeated in story form for me each year! I have continued the same story and sharing the importance of the value of gratitude.
My kids look forward to Christmas for 11 months each year! The last thing I want to hear is them being an “Ada” and complaining about is how they didn’t get everything they wanted, but teaching and having a spirit of gratitude instead. Before Christmas, I try to set aside a time to do something for others. They have griped at times…I will be honest…but I know that serving others will help make them into a better people. It’s harder for them to think about their little problems when they see the Bob-Cratchit-sized issues of the less fortunate.