The temperament experts—describe three temperament types—feisty, slow to warm up and easy. I have blogged about my feisty 15-year old son, my slow to warm up 20-year old daughter and now I am going to share with you my experiences raising my 21- year old “easy” son. Has parenting him always been easy? Not in the least!
My first born son—Jared has always been an easy temperament kid. He really never cried. I fed him every four hours because that’s what the doctor said. He didn’t demand it. But I knew I should. He didn’t use a pacifier. He was content on his own. He smiled at everybody. He adjusted well, despite his parents’ inexperience. He was simply the most content, happy baby. His easy temperament was a good match for my sometimes “feisty” temperament.
My concerns with his physical development started at 10 months of age when I noted that he couldn’t sit up on his own. And at 18 months, I really began to worry because he still wasn’t walking. I remember our family doctor looking at him as he referred to a child development book and said, “Hmm, he really should be walking. “He looks strong enough”. As a first time mom I wondered, “ was he just “too easy-going?” , “ was he lazy?”, or “could it be something else?”. But his easy going style, and a long waiting list for the developmental clinic kept these questions in my mind for several months. And still he couldn’t walk.
Then at 20 months of age, Jared had his first of several febrile seizures. Most twenty month olds wouldn’t have tolerated that EEG cords, the IVs and the liquid epileptic medications. But Jared did. He Smiled, and actually seemed to enjoy the interaction with the nurses and lab technicians. The testing went on for a couple of months and then just prior to his 2 year birthday, we received his diagnosis of Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy. Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy is a progressive neuromuscular disease that typically effects only males, because of the x-linked genetic mutation. Boys are sometimes slow to develop physically, sometimes have speech and cognitive challenges as well as cardiac and pulmonary issues, and lose the ability to walk around the age of 12. So at the same time that we celebrated his first steps, we mourned the losses that lay ahead his first future knowing that he would permanently lose his ability to walk. His easy going temperament has been the key to our acceptance. He has never expressed his desire to do anything physical that he wasn’t able to do. His positive attitude is infectious. His easy temperament is an asset. I hope that you can see the temperaments that your children have as an asset too!
